Navigating Loss with COVID-19
𝗪𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗺𝗮
The Lord has welcomed our Grandmother into his kingdom. Due to Covid19, services will be limited. My heart is heavy.
How do we navigate loss with our current pandemic situation?
My grandmother was a remarkable woman who deserved the biggest funeral possible. My heart aches knowing that only a hand full of people will be there to pay their respects. Depending on where you live, some places are not even allowing funeral services. I have seen families conduct virtual memorials and some families who have had to store remains until a funeral could be arranged after the pandemic. So, what do we do? How can we grieve when everything has changed? Especially when we have already been experiencing a living loss.
A living loss is grief without a death. Because of COVID-19, people have lost a part of their everyday lives as they stay at home and limit in-person socializing. Experiencing grief is not limited to a physical death and is a normal response to the loss of the life one used to live before a life-changing event, such as a pandemic.
So, what do we do? If you’re like me and currently grieving a loss of a loved one during this pandemic here are some ways to cope:
Pick up the phone and call someone. It seems so simple doesn’t it? But it isn’t. It’s difficult to reach out when you’re grieving. But in this current climate we have to change how we would normally do things. Call a friend or a parent. Anyone you can talk to.
Consider speaking to a grief counselor or therapist. It may feel awkward at first, but I speak with my therapist weekly and it truly helps. To speak openly and freely to someone without judgement is incredibly freeing. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to make an appointment. Mental health is important!
No guilt trips. It‘s easy to get caught up in the guilt. This is something I’m personally struggling with with the loss of my grandma. “I should’ve called more” “I should’ve visited more” All of the “I should’ve” “If I had only” statements can lead down a dark path. Try to give yourself some grace. Don’t beat yourself up.
Practice Self Care. I can’t stress this enough. Even if it’s just taking a bath. It‘s important for our physical and mental health.
The truth is we just aren’t sure how
long this pandemic will last. Is this the way I wanted my grandmother‘s funeral service to commence? No, but I’m thankful that we were even permitted to have a graveside service. It’s easy to get lost in the sea of grief. To curl up into a ball and hide from the world, but I know thats not what our loved ones would have wanted for us. I’m praying for you... and for me. That we find strength and understanding. That God carries these burdens for us because they sure are heavy. I love you, friend. Hang in there.
Will you pray with me?
Jesus, You said, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” I am mourning; send me Your comfort now. Wrap around Your arms around me and hold me tight. Send angels of mercy to me. Shower Your comfort on me through those around me, and keep far from me those whose words and actions are no comfort
In loving memory Velma Clay Beasley
Velma Clay Beasley, 95 of Hillsville, passed away on Thursday, May 28, 2020 at Heritage Hall Laurel Meadows. Mrs. Beasley was born in Carroll County to the late Harvey David and Minnie Fleming Crowder. In addition to her parents, she was also preceded in death by her husband, Foster Allen Beasley; son, Vincent Clay Beasley; grandsons, Nathan Beasley and Michael Beasley; two brothers; and five sisters.
Survivors include her sons and daughters-in-law, Joel Warren and Pamela Beasley of Nashville and Daniel Foster and Karen Beasley of Fincastle; sister, Scottie Crowder; seven grandchildren; nine great-grandchildren; and special friend, Loretta Umbarger.